But I love it…
Recent conversation with close friends have proven I’m a little bit unusual.
They seem to be using sex as a tool to get what they want out of their relationships. I try not to play these games.
When I say I don’t feel like having sex, I mean I don’t feel like having sex. Not that I might feel like it if you tell me something I want to hear. If I’m not in the mood, there’s very little you can do or say to get me in the mood.
I’ve recently heard a number of people state that oral sex is off the list at various cut-offs in the relationship. One woman said that out after six months, she no longer needs to suck cock. As though it’s a chore. A guy at my husband’s work told him a joke - “You know why Brunette was smiling so much as she walked down the aisle on your wedding day? She knew she’d never have to suck your dick again”. It’s like people see oral sex as the one thing no-one wants to perform, but everybody loves to receive. The thing that hooks people in. Then once you have what you want, you give it up.
I prefer it to actual sex. Sex is good, but oral, both giving and receiving, is better. Giving head makes me feel horny. Receiving head makes me cum so much harder and faster. Often when giving or receiving, I’ll imagine intercourse… which then makes intercourse so much better because of the anticipation and because I’m linking it to wicked pleasure in my mind.
For some reason, I’m not the dirty girl. I can’t tell people this stuff. When I disagree, somehow I end up feeling like my opinion is a little warped, and I shouldn’t say it aloud. Instead, I talk to my husband about it afterwards. It helps him to appreciate me a little more. And together, we say “poor bloke” about the other guy.
harmonysweetpea said,
May 23, 2007 at 10:40 pm
I love the honesty of your post. You are simply expressing what so many are scared to say. I agree with alot of what you are saying too. If I am not in the mood, it definately means I’m not in the mood, and unfortunately my partner is the same. Strange for a guy! Sometimes he just likes to cuddle and I just wanna get it on… but we can’t always have it our own way lol
Oral sex is definately something that should not automatically stop after a certain stage in a relationship. It is an expression of passion and we should never give that passion up. Surely your friend still wants to recieve… so she should also be willing to give! Its a two way street afterall.
Men and their sexist comments are so frustrating also! Guys who try to make jokes out of other mens sex lives are simply admitting to their own unsatisfying relationships.. at least its a good way to think of it!
lori said,
June 3, 2007 at 9:33 pm
I am not a huge fan of oral due to my previous partner not having the nicest taste, and other issues
However, ovbviously in my new relationship, I must overcome my personal dislike of it. It’s not fair on my boy, and I was his first, and I need to ensure he enjoys everything about sex, for both of us 
Sides, as I am finding, it’s a great way to get him in the mood when I am in the mood
phishez said,
June 4, 2007 at 3:45 pm
I personally like it. The taste (so long as he’s not all sweaty and gross), the feel, the sounds. For me it is a turn on. But its only something I do when I want to. Likewise, I love getting. But I don’t ask for it. If he wants to give it to me, then he’s more than welcome.
At the start of a relationship I do give more. Because its new, a novelty. But I don’t think the novelty will ever really wear off.
At least, thats what I hope.
callith said,
January 31, 2008 at 10:32 pm
OMG. I also LOVE, LOVE, LOVE giving a bj!!!
It’s my very favourite activity.